How it feels to find your Tribe

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this post! Feel the exact same way about our beautiful Tribe–and of course, connecting with you, dear SW ❤ ❤ ❤

the silent wave

Seven and a half months ago, I attended a professional conference.  The subject material appealed to a small-but-growing niche of forward-thinking visionaries, and the energy in the ballroom had been mounting gradually throughout the day.  Finally, with glee, one of the presenters exclaimed, “I feel like I’ve found my tribe!”

Little did I know that less than seven weeks later, I would stumble upon a discovery that would lead to me toward a tribe of my own.

I had, up until that point, led a life of relative loneliness.  When the evidence of my spot on the autism spectrum first began to grow, I felt even lonelier.  Of course, I was also relieved and set free; I now had a valid reason behind all of my miscellaneous quirks, needs, and emotional responses.

No longer was I simply “different” or “quirky”; it was Real.

The invisible wall that had always cordoned…

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Neurotypical Awareness

Great post, Rhi!

“I [thought] my brain was just like everyone else’s. I now know it isn’t…I don’t know your brains at all.”

Autism and Expectations

Being diagnosed late in life has meant that I’ve needed to learn a lot about a new subject that I didn’t know applied to me. I’ve read personal accounts written by autistic people, I’ve read research papers, I’ve looked into coping mechanisms – and mostly found that I’ve built my own solutions over the years without realising what I was doing. Trial and error were my constant companions.

Learning about what being autistic is, means that I can see the links between my behaviours and motivations for what they really are. Neurotypical motivations don’t apply to me, I don’t work like that.

It’s been a journey of acceptance and understanding that has increased my quality of life exponentially.

I listen to myself more. I recognise my needs. I don’t always do the things that would stop overload, but I’m aware of the consequences, I rock if I need to rock…

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Sharing a great article – Confessions of a Closet Aspie: Women & Girls on the Autism Spectrum

Just Under Your Radar

Autism affects females differently. Girls and women are often better able to “fit in” and develop effective coping mechanisms but lack of awareness can result in unmet needs and untapped potential.

As a private person, the idea of sharing my own story feels a bit like parading around naked in a puritanical church during the Victorian Era and the fact that Timothy Leary and Richard Alpert relied in large part on their own trips to write The Pyschedelic Experience offers me little consolation for my own circumstance. But sometimes, for the sake of an ideal, people need to set aside their hangups. When I wrote the first draft of Autism Translated I wasn’t planning on coming out of the closet but that is exactly what happened and it wasn’t graceful. I left my safe little private space kicking and screaming.

Read the full piece at: Confessions of a Closet Aspie:…

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The Silberman Issue

Well written piece of writing that touches on an important topic of discussion

A Flickering Life

I have nothing personally against Steve Silberman.

Steve Silberman’s book NeuroTribes is a solid piece of writing that argues many of the same ideas I’ve put forward on this blog. It’s a book that expresses optimism about our futures. It’s a book that respects us. Silberman did an immense amount of research and it shows.

Furthermore he’s worked hard on outreach to the community. He interacts constantly with us. He’s constantly pushing the cause of neurodiversity. As much as an outsider to our community can do, he’s attempted to do. I respect that.

So it’s not as easy to do a piece in which I have to call out Silberman. He’s not Autism Speaks or a cure advocate. He’s at least on the right side. But I can’t hold my tongue any more on this.

Steve Silberman has become a very serious problem for autistic people. He’s become the de…

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