I am working with a newly diagnosed Ausomely Aspie young woman with low self-esteem issues. I believe that her self-esteem issues are rooted in family, previous workers telling her that autism is a flaw, a disease. I was told that this young lady was DIFFICULT, acting out all the time.
You know what I discovered?
She is VERY sensitive, VERY smart, VERY tuned in to everything, LOVES tech and painting. She started FLAPPING because she was HAPPY to see me!
At first, she felt ashamed of her FLAPPING, because she was taught that FLAPPING is a BAD thing. I just smiled and said, “FLAP away!” and after mentioning that I, too, am also Aspie, FLAPPED back.
I introduced her to our blogs, links (thank you Sam! for those links), and even a bit of the Twitterverse, etc. I also said not be afraid to send me messages, etc, if she needs to talk or ask me (us) any questions.
I told her that even though I am technically a PAID COMPANION, I would like to be her friend and of course, Tribe-sister, because we are. I explained to her that she is NOT alone, that there are many others like her, and about our beautiful Aspie/Autie, Autistic community.
She actually CRIED, she was so HAPPY! HAPPY FLAPPY tears for both of us!
Something ‘told’ me that sensory issues were a huge challenge in her everyday living as I was listening to this Ausomely Aspie young woman speak, so…she tried on my sunglasses, earplugs, and earphones.
She immediately smiled and said, “Wow, what a difference!”
We then went shopping for sunglasses, earplugs, and earphones to help her with sensory issues–had a little fun with the decor on the earphones afterwards! 😀
We arrived back to her apartment, and I showed her how to cook some of her favorite things! 🙂
In short, I have become an Aspie mentor of sorts. Something shifted for me today, something beautiful as I was doing so. I have had recurring visions of this from long ago, doing this type of work. ❤
It is amazing what can happen with Compassion, Kindness, Genuine Love . 🙂 ❤